Infertility Support and Counselling Services
Growing up we experience and learn about the value and sense of fulfillment of having a family and for many we believe that we can create families and children at the time of our biological choosing. The reality is that infertility has been a source of sadness and despair since the earliest times, with stories of the emotional and social struggles of being unable to reproduce appearing throughout history.
Government Canada reported in 2013 that around 16% (or 1 in 6) couples experience infertility and that 30% is attributable to male issues, 40% female, 20% mixed and 10% where no specific cause is initially identified.
Infertility, by definition, is a difficulty in conceiving despite having regular unprotected sex. While there is no definitive cut off period after which a medical professional is able to say a couple is ‘infertile’, statistics suggest that the probability of a couple who have been trying to fall pregnant naturally for more than three years with no success is 25% or less.
Feeling that your body is suddenly working against you can be a very painful realization, and on top of this you may then also be expected to make extremely difficult decisions regarding your future. Should you try again? Or is it time to start thinking of other ways to start a family?
Research has shown that infertility often has a stressful impact on relationships and can affect a couple’s sex life. The condition is isolating and can impact on how a couple communicate with each other and with the people around them. There can be a profound sense of loss and grief which can impact on closeness.
Infertility can also carry with it a sense of denial with sadness and shock borne individually when pregnancy does not materialize. There can also be feelings of fear, guilt and abandonment from the partner who feels the problem lies with them. Women can feel less feminine and men can feel less masculine in the face of infertility.
Infertility can also put stress on your relationship, with studies showing that couples dealing with infertility are more likely to feel unhappy with themselves and their marriages. It is important to express the feelings of sadness, loss and anger and to have support from people around you who understand your position.
Many clinics offer Infertility Treatment and a number of options to achieve conception. Our counsellors, some who have personal experience of infertility, are here to offer support and guidance, whether you are thinking of, engaged in treatment, or looking to address closure of those attempts.